Together, Let’s Change the Narrative around Routine v’s No Routine!

Over the past few weeks, I have had many a conversation about routine v’s no routine amongst mothers and colleagues, and it seems that it is, I guess what I one would say a ‘hot off the press’ topic at the moment.

I often get asked my opinion on routines and my response is always the same; if a routine works for you then here is a routine. If a routine isn’t your thing, then that’s Ok too.

Absolutely, when a parent reaches out struggling with there littles ones sleep, then 100%  I will always start with a few days on routine until we see what the little one does organically as we really need a starting point (and I have a blog on this if you want to read about my rationale behind this in depth).

I would like to change the narrative on parenting on a routine v’s parenting without a routine but giving a different perspective for some motherhood food for thought!

Some parents are amazing at just going with the flow, waking up and heading out the door without a worry in the world and coping well with what the day throws at them. Being out all day without missing a beat, having their little one sleep on them, in the pram, the carrier or not sleeping at all.

This approach may not work with others, but it works for them and their family and that is what matters.  Let them be them, and you be you and support each other without judgement.  Understand you are doing the best you can and they are doing the best they can!

On the other side of the coin, there are other mums who would not cope with this scenario at all.

For these mums, they feel they are at their best and most relaxed if they have their little one’s , for example, home for their sleeps. Having a routine for these mums means they will (and can) work their day around their little one’s naps and feeds, because that is what makes them the best mum they can be.

This approach may not work with others, but it works for them and their family and that is what matters. Let them be them, and you be you and support each other without judgement.  Understand you are doing the best you can and they are doing the best they can!